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Thursday, October 30, 2014

From the eyes of a grandchild



My Grandfather passed away Sunday October 19th, 2014. We drove up for the funeral a few days later and I was honored to be able to write something from my heart to say at the funeral. I know all the grammar isn't correct, but this is what I typed out to read and I would like to share it.





Grandpa’s house: from the eyes of a grandchild



Going to Grandpa's house has always been a great experience with many fond memories for us grandkids.  As a small child, Grandpas house felt so large you could go explore and feel like you could do lots of different things without any of the adults around.  You could play in different areas of the living room, dining room, the different bedrooms downstairs - (my favorite one was Uncle Kelley’s old room with all of the horses and… some halloween decorations[?]), and go sliding up and down the hallway in our socks to see who could go further, and play outside taking walks in the woods making booby traps for the adults to fall into - (well mainly Uncle Tracy and sometimes uncle Kelley because the other adults would either get mad at us for making them fall into a hole or just wouldn't participate in our antics), and play in the front yard collecting flowers or catching fire flies or playing football…. And many times all the cousins would get lots of blankets to make pallets on the floor of the living room to watch movies and Grandpa would even let us invade his space in his bedroom to watch movies there too.  


Us grandkids always thought Grandpa was so technologically advanced and had the coolest stuff.  He had that huge projection tv - the kind with the three color lights shining on the screen… we thought that was so cool….. and of course used it to make shadow puppets.  

 The landing on the stairs where you can look out the window, was a favorite spot.  We would play there and we would also run there to look out the window whenever someone would come down the driveway and the loud chimes would let everyone in the house know that someone new was there…. or that someone was just using the drive way to turn around - that was always disappointing.  


Us grandkids loved Grandpa’s house… always a great experience.  We loved our Grandpa too.  He was always so funny, using his dry humor telling jokes, letting us ride with him in his truck or the conversion van with the TV and Nintendo 64... so awesome.  And sometimes we would go through the drive-through to get a hamburger… for Benji (the dog).  Grandpa always seemed relaxed and calm surrounded by his family… even if things were crazy- you know... with all of us grandkids running around.


Christmas was always an experience too - Whether it was getting one hundred one dollar bills or the year Grandpa pulled into the driveway with a truck bed full of gifts.  But more importantly, Christmas was filled with family. Family is and was always important.  

When I got a little older, in high school and college…. things would get a little too loud and crazy for me in the house during our Christmas get-togethers and I would need to find a spot to get away from it.  I would walk out side, stand on the front walkway, look up, and...  ***take in a deep breath and let it out***  breath in the cold air, see my warm breath and the beautiful stars, and be in the quiet; but still hearing the sounds from everyone still in the house.  And I would appreciate my wonderful crazy family, where I was in life at the moment, and just appreciate life.  It was always nice to have those few minutes to just ponder on things… and then go back into the crazy.



Last night after coming back from the funeral home, seeing most of my family there, the kids were so crazy.  My youngest was just exhausted because he is still a baby and it was past his bedtime.  My middle was having a break down over anything that wasn't exactly the way she wanted it, even though she probably didn't know how she wanted it because she is two.  And my oldest ran to the stairs to look out the window because the loud chimes let everyone in the house know that someone new was there... and she fell and busted her lip.  After we got them settled down, and into bed, and some of the other people left….  I needed to take a moment from the crazy.   So I walked outside, stood on the front walkway, looked up, and…  ***take in a deep breath and let it out***  The air was cool and the stars were beautiful… and I appreciate my wonderful crazy family, and where I am in my life right now…. and just life.

We Love you and miss you Grandpa

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Mark Edward: Baby Dedication


Mark is almost 7 months old and is getting so big!  He is developing his own little personality and crawling everywhere.  We did a special little baby dedication for Alle when she we a few months old and wanted to do something similar for Mark.  We invited everyone from both sides of the family and our friends from our life group (church small group), and had it at the Prayer Chapel at Heritage church that overlooks a pond.

Granddaddy and Granny Fleetwood
Granddad and Nana Fountain





















It is almost the same as what we did for Alle, but here is a transcript of what was said during the dedication:

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Thank you all for joining us today at the dedication of our son, Mark Edward Fleetwood.

What the bible says about Children:



Psalm 127:3-5:
Children are a heritage from the LORD,
  offspring a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
  are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
  whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
  when they contend with their opponents in court.


This passage shows us that Children are a gift and blessing from the Lord. As with all the gifts from God, some people are given more, some are given less. Some appreciate and adore the gift and some reject or abuse the gift. Our response as christian parents should be thankful for these gifts, love and adore them. Cherish and take care of them and give them the training and teaching that they will carry with them for the rest of their lives.


Proverbs 22:6 says:
Start children off on the way they should go,
  and even when they are old they will not turn from it.


Anna and I are making a public declaration today, in front of our friends and family, that we will do what the Proverb 22 passage speaks of:


-We commit to loving, protecting, and when necessary disciplining Mark as he grows up.
-We commit to teaching Mark the value and importance of Family by loving being actively involved in our extended families.
-We commit to to teaching Mark the value of having Christian friends by having and sharing our lives with our Christian friends.
-We commit to teaching Mark the importance of being a part of the body of Christ by actively loving and serving in and among our church family.
-We commit to teaching Mark the value and importance of the marriage relationship by, as his parents, loving and serving each other as long as we both live.
-Most importantly We commit to teaching Mark the scripture and training him up in the ways of the Lord, and understanding that while we are given stewardship over him for a season she ultimately belongs to the Lord.


Now we ask you as our family and friends to help us maintain these commitments. If you agree with the previously spoken statements and you agree to holding Anna and Myself accountable, but also assisting us whenever it is within your power, to help us follow through with these things would you signify by say “We Will”:

Now the older Mark is going to read the Priestly blessing over the younger Mark:

Numbers 6:24-26


24 “‘“The Lord bless you
   and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
   and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
   and give you peace.”’

Now we are going to have the other grandfather, James, say a blessing or a prayer for Mark.

Clint reads a prayer from the common book of prayers


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Afterwards we had some fruit and cookies for everyone and the kids played outside.  It was a very sweet and special that our family and close friends came together for our little buddy mark.











Saturday, May 31, 2014

Springtime Crazy 2014

Spring is always a busy time of year with Easter, Mother's day, End-of-the-year school and Gymnastics programs, Olivia's 5th birthday, and lots of other things!  Also I don't want my blog to turn into just pictures of different holidays.  So I'm going to do what I did last year and just sum up each one  :)


Easter




Mother's Day




Pre-K Graduation



Gymnastics Program



Olivia turns the big 5!





How the kiddos are growing
Pictures from January to April 2014





Monday, February 17, 2014

New Big Kid and New Kids!


Allene Drue (Alle) is now officially two years old!  She is such a sweet little girl and now a 'big kid.'

Alle has had a lot of changes in her life over the past year with moving and getting a new baby brother and we wanted her to feel special.  We went to McDonald's with my mom on her birthday to get her first happy meal, and had a small party for her at our house with her family and friends.


One week ago we went up to north Georgia to pick up Ritzy (our milking goat) and her two boy babies (kids).  They were a surprise for the girls and I think they love them!  We named them Ruff and Tuff.



Olivia and Alle loved showing off their goats and new baby kids to their friends at Alle's party.  Alle enjoyed things being all about her for a change... I think she will be a good addition to the 'big kid club'!



Wednesday, January 1, 2014

Starting a Homestead

We started moving out to my in-law's house in September.  It has been a slow process of getting the new place ready, moving, working on things at our old house, having major family events, getting settled, and having a baby!

We want our new place to be more than just a house and a home for our family;  we are also working on homesteading.  We want our family to live healthy lives.  We want our kids to have responsibilities with animals, to be familiar with different animals, to grow and eat foods so they can see where they come from, and to know how to make things instead of just going to the store and buying them.

We know we won't be able to do all this perfectly at first... But it will be a learning experience for all of us.


v. 1 the act of transforming a home into a property that produces some or all of its residents own food and other subsistence needs.
v. 2 participation in home-based activities such as gardening, raising poultry or small livestock, producing simple products through cottage industry, minimizing consumer purchases, and generally seeking ways to increase self-sufficiency within the home environment.
v. 3 the creation of an homestead with the goal of reducing one’s environmental impact and returning to a home-based, family-centered, self-sufficient way of life.


So a couple of weeks before Christmas we got ourselves some goats!  We purchased three milking goats and brought two of them home from Commerce Ga on December 15th and we will be getting the third in February after she has her babies.  We have been cleaning up our shrubbery and trees, burning our burn piles, building fences, starting composting, clearing out barns and cleaning up spaces for a chicken coop.

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Our Goats




              Riding home with four 'kids' in the car!



Noel                                                                            Holly - She is the smaller one


They are chillin in their house to stay out of the drizzly rain


Second day feeding the goats



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Other homesteading projects

Yay for compost!
     

  We are converting our old greenhouse into a chicken coop that leads outside.  They will be able to roam around in a large space behind the barn as well.


  
We will be starting on planting in the upcoming months to have plenty of fresh veggies throughout the year.



He is finally here!

After 41 weeks and a day  of being pregnant, moving houses, other changes, and lots going on... baby Mark decided to join us.

Mark Edward Fleetwood
Born November 16th
8lb 3oz
21 1/4in long




He has been such a precious and sweet baby boy.  I am so glad that he is in our lives and have been with us for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and new years.  He has had a busy 6 1/2 weeks so far.  I will be working on a birth story to share with everyone!



Saturday, November 9, 2013

Allene Drue Birth Story: Born February 14, 2012

Alle is almost two years old now but while we are waiting on our newest addition, I am reminiscing and decided to finish Alle's birth store and post it on here.  Hope you enjoy it...


Alle’s Birth Story

Chapter One: The beginning of a new life
We were so blessed to have one little girl, Olivia.  But we did want to have more children… We just didn't’ know if it was possible.  It took us about three years to get pregnant with Olivia and before we were pregnant with her, I had a miscarriage.  I don’t keep it a secret but I also don’t talk about it very much.  It was very difficult for Clint and I to handle and although it has made us stronger, I am still very sensitive to it, other’s miscarriages, abortion, hardships in life, and just life itself.  

With Olivia I had low progesterone the beginning of my pregnancy and had to take supplements and go in for blood work a couple of times a week.  We knew that would be an issue for every pregnancy we would have.  Dr Adcock was our doctor for Olivia but after Olivia was born is when he had his accident and I had not gotten a new doctor yet.  

In June 2011 my family went up to visit with my Grandpa and others in my extended family in north Georgia.  Clint and I decided to go up a little early and let Olivia stay with my parents and ride up with them.  We decided go camping and  to hike up Brasstown Bald.  It was beautiful but very tiring!  Clint told me later that when we were at my Grandpa’s house he walked in the room and thought to himself “Wow… I think Anna is pregnant”.  Fortunately, he was wise enough to keep it to himself!

For some reason, when we got home from our trip, I decided to take a pregnancy test and it was positive!  I had a crazy rush of emotions… I was happy, concerned, excited, anxious, and nervous.  I knew that I needed to start taking progesterone immediately but didn't have a doctor.  I called Medi-Share (our non-insurance company at the time) to ask them what OBGYNs were covered in our area and surrounding.  They gave me all the information and then asked to pray for me over the phone.  I called a place in Thomasville and explained my situation but they said I would have to wait over a week.  I got off the phone and cried for a little bit.  Then I composed myself and decided to go to Dr Adcocks old office.  I don’t know what I was hoping to accomplish since he wasn’t in business anymore, but I knew that Mrs Judy Adcock had been up there some finishing up paperwork and reports.  The secretary asked me what I needed when I went in and I don’t remember what I said but she could tell I was upset.  Mrs Judy came out into the waiting room and I started to cry.  She took me back to another room and I explained everything to her.  She said she would put in a call to Dr Trescot’s office and I could go straight over there to get my blood drawn and a prescription for progesterone.  She prayed for me before I left.

I went across the hospital parking lot to Dr Trescot’s office and they were able to see me right away.  I explained my previous situations and told them that I needed to start taking progesterone right away.  They did all of the blood work, called in a prescription, and set me up for another appointment to get more blood work.

I was relieved and excited and decided to call Clint.  He was working at the church and I asked him to meet me at Dr Trescots office.  He, of course, had a suspicion to what I was going to tell him, but it was still so awesome to see him hop out of his car and the look on his face when I told him that we were pregnant again.  We went out for lunch and talked about how excited we were but also shared our nervousness.  We also started training Olivia to say “Big Sister” so she could help us share our good news with our families.

I was working at my dad’s office that summer and fall scanning and organizing documents.  I received a call from the doctor’s office after I had about two blood tests, telling me that my progesterone had fallen and I needed to start taking it twice a day instead of once a day.  I was too nervous to ask what the levels were and just said ‘ok’.  Progesterone is a pain to take but I knew that it could help our little one growing inside me.  

If you don’t know, during a regular month, a woman’s progesterone should fluctuate between 1 and 25.  It is of course different for each woman.  But at early pregnancy you want those levels to be at least mid teens and to be rising.  After a week or two of doubling my progesterone supplements, I asked what my levels had been and they told me that they started out pretty low, around 8/10 and had dropped to around 5.  After doubling my progesterone, the levels rose to about 12.  It was good that they rose but 12 is still pretty low.  After a few more tests and continuing with diligently taking my progesterone, my numbers continued to rise.  It was a scary time because we were not sure if we would lose our little one.

June 28th we had an ultrasound appointment.  I was 7½ weeks along at that time and Clint and I waited anxiously to check things out.  The first thing they looked for was a heartbeat… It was the most beautiful sound!  Our little one seemed to be healthy!  (as far as you can tell from an early ultrasound).  We were overjoyed to see a little bean inside me and to see and hear the little heartbeat.  We got our due date of February 8th 2012.






After the first trimester there really weren't any concerns or complications.  Everything went smoothly, day by day, as my belly grew. When we found out we were having another precious little girl, we decided to chose family names.  Alene was Clint’s Grandmother’s name and Drucilla was my grandmother’s middle name (that she hated).  We chose Allene Drue and we would call her Alle.
                                            Alene                                                                            Janice Drucilla





Chapter Two: Waiting for Baby Alle


38 week, 39 week, and 40 week appointment- One day before my due date:  At my 38 week appointment the nurses tried to make me set up an induction date of the 7th even though my due date was the 9th of Feb.  I did not feel comfortable with that at all but when I told them that, they just brushed me off so I felt that I had to keep that 7th hospital induction date.  However at my 39 week appointment I was able to meet with the midwife and she discussed it with me very differently.  She said that I can keep that appointment or they can cancel it and it was entirely up to me.  I was only 1 ½ cm dilated with no contractions yet and decided to cancel the induction date and just see what happens.

So at my 40 week appointment they hooked me up to some machines that monitor baby’s heart rate, movements and any contractions. I was able to listen to Alle’s heart beat for about 15 minutes and her heart rate was about 148 beats per minute.  I was only a ‘tight’ 2 cm dilated but everything looked great.  I discussed induction again with the midwife and told her I was comfortable with setting up a date for next week in case she hasn’t decided to come before then.  She said I would need to go in on Monday night and they would induce Tuesday morning.  It was exciting to think that if Alle waited until then we would have a Valentine baby!


Thursday, February 9th - My due date:  Instead of having a baby, I got a pedicure with my mom while drinking a latte then visited with my friend Anna  from California and her family at chick-fil-a for about two hours.  It was a lot of fun and a great way to celebrate my 40 week mark.  I wrote more about my due date and doctors appointments in my blog if you want to read more.  That night I had my first contractions.  They were mostly in the late evening and I was able to get some sleep after midnight.

Friday, February 10th - One day past my due date:  I was tired and was still having a few contractions that morning.  I asked my in-laws if they could take Olivia to gymnastics for me because I didn’t think I would be able to help her out like I needed to.  I called the doctor's office to tell them that I was having contractions through the night and early that morning.  She said since they were irregular and I currently wasn’t having any, then she couldn’t do anything.  She gave me some advice for if I wanted to hurry up my labor or if I wanted to slow it down and wait till Monday.  I was fine that afternoon and felt good enough to go to my mom’s birthday party at Margaritas but that evening my contractions started back up.

Saturday, February 11th - Two days past my due date:  I was still tired but was able to get some sleep between long breaks in my contractions.  For some crazy reason I decided to sew some matching blankets and a burp cloth for Olivia and Alle that morning.  We went over to the Fleetwoods for lunch because Sara was home.  The guys decided to go golfing but I was feeling pretty crappy so I made sure Clint had his cell phone with him on the golf course and I went home to sleep and watch some hulu.  We all went back over that night for supper.  I sat on the couch most of the time with my touch pad because i just felt plain tired and ready to have this baby!  Contractions started back up again around 10:00pm that evening and I was only able to sleep between 20 and 45 minutes at a time throughout the night on the couch.

Sunday, February 12th - three days past my due:  Soon after Olivia woke up that morning, she threw up.  She threw up several times that day.  She was not being fussy or anything but it was still difficult to feel like I was taking care of her properly since I was still feeling poorly myself.  We just watched movies all day and layed down on the couch.  Olivia ended up going to sleep at 6pm on her monkey in the living room and when I tried to wake her up to see if she wanted to eat, she said that she wanted to go lay down in her room.  So I put her on a pull-up and put her in her bed.  She slept all night... but I on the other hand, had more contractions that lasted all night long. I was definitely ready to have baby Alle at this point.

Monday, February 13th - Four days past due:
Olivia still was not feeling well and neither was I.  Clint went on to work because he had a meeting that morning.  I asked Mrs Connie to come over because I was still having contractions.  They were pretty regular and I wanted to get checked out at the Doctors office.  Clint came home early and we loaded up our car with our hospital bag and went to the doctors office.  I was only 2 cms but my cervix was softened so the midwife said I didn’t have to go in to the hospital that night to be induced tomorrow.  I can just wait till 6am or when I go into labor.  They hooked me up to a machine again to monitor baby movements and contractions.  I had contractions every 6-7 minutes until i stepped into the doctor's office.  I only had one contraction during the 20 minutes hooked up to the monitor but we could hear Alle’s heartbeat and everything was fine with her.  I was sent home to wait it out.  

My contractions slowed during the afternoon so I was able to take a nap.  That evening Clint said he would get me whatever I wanted for supper.  I sent him to get me some chicken fried rice, and a sonic milkshake.  We watched episodes of ‘How I Met Your Mother’ all evening while I moved from the bed to rocking chair to exercise ball to standing and back to the bed again.  I finally tried to lay down to sleep for a little while but my contractions hurt too much to sleep.  I decided to let Clint sleep and I went to the couch to wedge myself into a sitting/laying position with pillows propping me up.  I might have dozed for 15 minutes at a time but not much more than that.  I had to get up and walk around.  At every contraction I would time them with the app on my phone.  Yes... there is an app for that.  :)


Chapter Three: The day we meet our Little Valentine

Tuesday, February 14th - Delivery Day:
At Home
Through the night I was timing my contractions with the app on my phone sitting in a big chair and walking around.  I wanted Clint to be able to get some sleep so he could help coach and support me for what would come very soon.  Around 2:45am or so, my contractions were at a pretty steady 5 minutes.  I went to take a shower a little after that to let the water hit my back in hopes of it helping with the pain.  

While in the shower my contractions went to 3 minutes apart consistently (I had my phone on the towel rack and still hit the button to time them).  I stayed in the shower until I was about to cry because of my contractions.  I only had about 1½ minutes between the end of one contraction and the start of the next and they were getting pretty painful.  

Clint checked on me when he heard me get out of the shower and asked if we needed to go on to the hospital.  We already had everything in the car except for out phone chargers.  We grabbed those and put on some clothes and went to the hospital at 3:50am.  

looking back at it now, I should have probably labored at home a little longer. I think that sleep sleep deprivation made me not think so clearly or deal with the pain like I could have.

At the Hospital
We went in, got someone to take me in a wheelchair to the OB, signed in, and they got us into our labor and delivery room. When we showed up they looked at us funny and said "ya'll are early". And I was like "yeah... I'm in labor!"  For some reason my contractions are shy of doctors and nurses because they slowed back down to about every 5/6 minutes.  I asked them to go ahead and get me some medication and they had to check with the on call doctor to get some for me.  I continued to have regular contractions but was glad to get a little rest because I was so exhausted.  

A nurse checked me out around 5:50 - I was 5cm dilated and 75% effaced and they started me on a low dose of pitocin.  My contractions went back to 3 minutes at that point.  Clint plugged in our touch pad so we could have some Pandora playing while I tried to rest.  My mom and Carrie came around 8:00am or so.  I talked to them some but then my contractions started getting bad again.  My dad also came in for a little while.  I asked for some more medication and they gave me some around 8:45am.  It was something different because it was a different on-call doctor prescribing and they also gave it to me without checking me first.  The nurse said that the midwife would be in soon and she would check me then.  

The medicine was not working and the contractions were getting more and more painful.  The monitor that was for the baby’s heartbeat wasn’t picking up Alle very well so the nurses came in to adjust it.  They fiddled with it for what seemed like a very long time making me move and roll around in the bed and pushing on my stomach... which was very painful!

Finally the midwife came in around 9:15 so the nurses let her do her thing.  She announced that she was about to check me and for everyone to clear out unless they wanted to see me exposed.  Dad told me goodbye and he would come back later that day and Mom and Carrie would stay around the waiting area until the midwife was finished.  When she checked me I was 9 ½ - 10 cm and it was time to push!  I was thinking that it was no wonder the second meds weren’t working and they couldn’t keep the monitor on the Alle’s heart beat!  

Clint called Carrie and my mom to let them know what was happening and they rushed in and got in their positions in the corner and behind the bed while the nurses were preparing for the delivery.  I remember asking the midwife if my water had broken yet and she told me that she had just done that.  
Around 9:30 the nurses had everything ready, got into position and started coaching me through the pushing process.  At one point they had to give me some oxygen and stuck some sort of prob on Alle because her heart rate wasn’t where it should be.  I remember hearing Luara Story’s song called ‘Blessings’ come on our Pandora station during this time which calmed me down and helped me to focus on what I was doing.  It seemed like I was pushing forever with no progress but then finally, at 9:52am Alle came into this world and I heard her cry.  The nurses quickly rubbed her down with a towel and passed her to me.  All I could do was just put my hands on her and close my eyes.  I was so exhausted but the first thing I said was “I love you Alle”.



She stayed on my chest for a while until the nurses took her over to the other table to be checked out.  I watched Mom, Carrie and Clint huddle around Alle watching her as they measured and stamped her feet.  Everyone in the room was amazed at what had just happened even though it is something that happens every day.  It is a beautiful, amazing thing how God lets everything come together to bring a life into this world. We love our little Alle Bug.



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